Thank you, Allan, for sharing your wisdom. I am honoured that someone of your stature would take the time to read my contribution and clarify the importance of the agreements. First of all, being blameless with our word has nothing to do with being true or lying. Nor is it about having a “positive influence” on others. A closer look reveals that Don Miguel uses the word “impeccable” to mean “sinless.” (See the book for the Latin derivation). He then says that our “Word” is the creative force in our lives (including beliefs, actions, etc.) and that we will sin when we “use our word against ourselves.” We have to break a lot of old agreements and change a lot of domesticated beliefs to actually have a space for someone`s violation or anger on us, without judging, withdrawing, defending, accusing, intellectualizing, you share their dream. I`m in the third book and I understand the concepts because they explain a lot of the methods I`ve learned to make a difference. This is not manipulation, it is that the result of a particular situation changes according to your perception, feeling and reaction. The consequences are always different in case of positive interaction. We learn all kinds of negative behaviors. Again, I realized that if you sew the story and discover the lesson there, it makes perfect sense. If you lash out of love for past negative behavior and forgive the person who made you feel unfairly punished or abused, there is nothing left to respond to except in a positive way.
You remove everything else, and all that remains is the truth, and you can rewrite every trauma and how you will respond to it in the future. They break the pattern. You will become an exception. Journaling helps. How did I feel? What for? Where did I feel like this for the first time? It takes a lot of soul research to arm yourself, and it takes you out of here and now to discover a pattern of learned behavior. I have evacuated many of these patterns from my life to be happy. Here too, I insist on self-improvement. You have to want to change and be healthy to get the job done.
When I was talking to someone who showed emotional vibes of what we`re saying, less than at least anger (shame and lack of self-love). I would recommend professional advice before trying self-improvement methods….